Cheers for the response,
I think i'm on my own lol
I will however double and triple check the wire i have when i get home,
i do know that the wire i am using at home doesn't draw enough power to light up the test lamp, (at least not during previous tests.)
My wiring is quite similer except that my fuel pump is constantly hot and connected to pin 3 on your diagram and pin 4 grounds the pump to complete the circut. this is the way the origional RB20 red top was wired... (as my car is a Z31 200zr) flip side is it never used a relay... the ecu grounded all 12-13v and 11amps its self (no idea why they would do that but thats how it was from factory...)
my current thought for a solution at the moment is to install a gas safety switch as its only on with a pulse signal generated from say the CAS or coil packs etc. however i am un-aware if i will still get the 5 second prime with this switch. (might just be dodgy and install a press button to manually prime my pump before start).
if anyone has any other safe alternative ideas to make a fuel pump only run during engine operation I'm all ears
thanks