Looking through the stickied wiring how-to now...
It looks like if I apply +12v to the wires for pins 43 (start signal), 45 (ignition power wire), and 58 (ecu backup, unswitched +12v), and ground the engine block, it should power on?
Unfortunately someone has removed the two blue relays off this motor set. To do this basic test, can I jump the wires at the relay connection for the thick red wire (ignition power relay) and the thick black/red stripe wire? It looks like this is the missing link, but I'd hate to ground something out and let the magic smoke out. Edit: this sounds like a bad idea in retrospect. Running a separate power to the thick red wire on the ignition power relay would probably be the better thing to do, if this is what's needed to power it up.
I have a new wiring harness on order from Wiring Specialties. should be here in about 2 weeks... I looked in my miscellaneous used parts bin, but I don't have any 4-pin relays that are the same as the ones on the rb25 harness.