You don't have to convince me. I think the 8.8 diff is the right direction, and I'm seriously considering it for my project, but I am thinking / planning on fabricating custom hub carriers to use the Ford outer CV joints and hubs, and a shorter strut secured above the axle centerline. Thinking about making a jig using the original Nissan strut / hub carrier assembly, and my new 5 lug stubs that I may never use! I already bought the MM stub axles and adapters but will try to sell them off if I do end up going this route. The torque biasing diffs for the Ford 8.8 are about half the price of the Quaife for the R200, gears / parts are plentiful and cheap, I agree.
Having said all that, I think that either your uprights are going to crack right where you welded in the diff. cover mounting bosses, or will loosen / break the upright mounting bolts. Will be anxious to hear which. Did you get them stress relieved after welding? I know the Nissan engineers could have done a few things better in hindsight, but I am confident their decision to isolate the diff mounting from the suspension arm mounting was a good one. Could you not have made some modified uprights to give room for a custom made mustache bar that would mount to the Explorer cover (or Cobra cover) and to the original mounting points in the rear subframe? I don't have any of these parts in front of me (yet), so am going off of imagination only...