Guest comeandzpa Posted July 31, 2003 Share Posted July 31, 2003 To anyone who says that the time you spend on this board is worthless, show them this post. I am 17, and will be going to college in the fall. The only time I was ever away from home for more than a few days was my trip to England and Ireland last summer for 9 days. I am extraordinarily close to my parents, as well as my sister and her boyfriend. I know that leaving home will be extra difficult for me because I am leaving everything I have ever known behind. While my best friend is actually going to the same school as I am, I know that I will hardly ever see him, and it is nothing like being at home with my family all the time. To make things worse, about a month ago my girlfriend broke up with me. We had only been going out for about 3 months, but in that short time I became better friends with her than any of my other friends. The timing of our relationship just wasn't right, becuase I am leaving and all. Because we were so close, and some of my friends are already at college, I have had a ton of spare time of late. I do work, but my job doesn't involve much human interaction, and all I have to do is think about things, which tends to get me in somewhat of a down mood. That is where this site has come in. While I certainly do not spend all my time here, the time I do spend here helps me occupy my time. It provides me with something to get my mind off of whats going wrong with my life, and what good things there are out there. You give me some form of motivation to do SOMEthing, even if it just to work on my car for a while. Regardless, it keeps me going when no one else is around. I do not mean to act like my problems are bigger than anyone elses or anything, I realize that in a few years this will seem like a downright silly thing to be upset about. However, I felt like I needed to let you know that you are helping me on a personal level as well as an automotive one. Thank you, and please keep this board the friendly, good-natured board it currently is. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Drax240z Posted July 31, 2003 Share Posted July 31, 2003 Hey man, we've all been 17. (except those that are 16) And trust me, many of us have been through EXACTLY the same thing you are talking about here. Know that you are making the right decision to go away to college, and while at times it may seem to be the wrong choice, your time there will be the best of your life! (I know, it probably doesn't seem possible) Remember, there will be thousands of people in the same boat as you there, away from home for the first time, wondering how they are going to survive it. Its amazing how easy it is to make friends in the first couple weeks of first year... funny too, most of those friendships last a very, very long time. My advice is to dive right in to the college scene. Find stuff you enjoy, make some friends and don't look back. You're going to have some rough times, but the good times will quickly outweight the bad. And the family is only ever a phone call away. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DavyZ Posted July 31, 2003 Share Posted July 31, 2003 You'll grow much more internally with the distance. Also, it will help you to mature, getting out of your comfort zone.--you will be a better person because of it. I KNOW HOW IT FEELS TO BE LONELY; hang in there since it is not forever. If you can get a job with more interaction do it--some of us are "people persons" and others are not. I like people, so being totally by myself only works for a while before I need something else. Hang in there! Davy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zgeezer Posted July 31, 2003 Share Posted July 31, 2003 I was an old 16 when I bailed out of a small town and headed to college...a big one that had more students that my town had people. I was dead stone lonely in a very large impersonal crowd. A solution that worked for me was to take electives that put me in smaller classes with people: art class, theater worked. But what really did the trick was to look for part time work at the large, large, large school cafeteria. You meet people, you flirt, you examine the issues of the world, you laugh, and your learn. You'll do well. You'll make good friends,some may last you a lifetime. Mine did, I married her. z Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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blueovalz Posted August 6, 2003 Share Posted August 6, 2003 It provides me with something to get my mind off of whats going wrong with my life. It sounds to me like there is really not much going wrong in your life. You are focused on the future, maturing, and facing nominal problems. Step back and now list all the good things going on in your life and you'll see a lot longer list. Keep you eyes open, because things you experience at this age will stick with you forever, so make the most of it (which it sounds like that's what you're doing). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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