ok heres an update that is actually a success, although i was beginning to lose hope after a couople minutes of drilling with my $20 bit that was merely scratching the bolt i just got a spur of the moment idea to use a regular metal drill bit again, so chose a 5/32 put 200lbs of man into it and i saw some shavings start to crawl up after a couple more mins i was about 1/4 in. deep which is about the depth the alden drill bit side will dig deep.
So i then grabbed my #2 alden extractor, even though the manufacturer says to use the #3 bit for 5/16 bolts to me it seemed a little big so thats y i chose #2(and also because the 5/32 drill bit was the only fresh bit i had that wasnt oversized for the bolt). Anyways lets continue first i tried using a pair of vice grips and they kept slipping off the tool then a crescent wrench same thing happened because the bolt was torqued so hard so then i finally got a 1/4 in. socket on a 3/8 ratchet and gave a slow, careful, torquey twist heard the bolt break loose and out it came.
overall i am happy with the results of this extractor even though the drill bit side didnt do much drilling on the bolt. at first i was concerned about how little the threads were sticking out on the extractor side but it proved to be a good product and it didnt SNAP so im happy.
- i would also like to mention that i did some heating and banging before i drillled n extracted