Your story brought up some of my negative memories when I had gone to pick up a car 6 hours away. My truck's transfer case got busted (driveshaft bolts were loose) with the U-haul trailer still attached, no rental places around to get back etc etc. Now I realize what I went through is _nothing_ in comparison to yours. I made a strong decision then to not go too far from home in pursuit of cars/toys and not to deal with Paypal (good luck getting your money back after 60 days). Ohh, and ask for high-rez pictures of the car, and not to fall for the seller's 'my camera is not working'.
2 years later I broke my own pledge and ventured 7 hours north looking for a 240Z. The seller advertised the car so well on the phone, that I trusted his opinion that I was ready to drive it back. I got the rental one way. What I found was a rusted P.O.S. with a E30 head. I am married, my wife helped me walk away from that deal after a 30-min phone conversation. I still got away pretty cheap (a few hundred $$) and a lost day. Btw, the seller couldn't provide good pictures for me either like in the previous experience.
If I were you, I would have tried to find someone from the forum to check the car out for you. I wish I did it myself, but like an idiot I was afraid someone was going to snatch that 'great' deal from me, especially when the seller mentioned as a matter of fact, that 'a few more guys were coming to check the car out ...'
Good luck getting your possessions back. If you find anything in the Bakersfield, CA area, let me know
With best regards!
Den
'76 280Z - work in progress (sun roof needs to be welded shut, interior work, a few patches of rust, new paint job, brakes etc.)
'98 Camaro Z28 - daily driver