I know the feeling of the lost feeling of safety and security.
Back in the old Country, we were broken into while we were sleeping. It was a hot summer night and we had the fan blowing hard, so could hear much over that. We were woken up by the security guard (armed with a fully automatic rifle - R1), who happened to be walking by just as the thieves had gained entrance to the front door. We were very lucky as usually the robbers just kill you there. I bought a 9mm Browning the next day!! and carried it loaded and cocked (safety on) everywhere I went. Over there, it's shoot first ask questions later!!! Count your blessings that you both weren't home, or worst, just your woman.....
Tim