well I did some digging today and didnr find anything wrong with the wiring, no grounds or anything... so then I disconnected each light one at a time and tried a new fuse each time, the fuse blew everytime, so I know the short isnt in a light... but when I plugged it all back in it worked fine! tail lights and dash lights and the fuse no longer blows... a bad connection wouldnt cause a fuse to blow so this is weird, my car has a habit of breaking and fixing herself