I was recently running an RB25DE in my '71 S30 and just switched over to the VQ powerplant along with the 6-speed trans.
Compared to the RB, the VQ is much smaller, lighter, and can be placed entirely behind the crossmember. So we're talking about an engine that's 3 cylinders shorter, about 100 LBS lighter, and gives a better weight distribution.
I wasn't able to take a picture of both engines side by side, but this might help.
As far as transmissions go the bell housing on both trannys are similar, however the gearbox secion of the VQ is much wider then the RB trans. Both are alos similar in length. The gearing is much different though. The RB trans has VERY long gears which really hurts acceleration.
Yes the VQ swap is probably going to cost much more than the RB but, IMO your better off with the VQ in any situation. Wheather your road racing, drifting, drag racing, daily driving, etc. the VQ is a much better choice.