Am I crazy?

[big-phil]

I'm 36. have a 10 year old daughter. Been married 13 years today(8-26-08), I'm not a very happily married man. I used to stunt ride motorcycles,http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d3g5GTUGWks but now all the stunting I do is riding a 50cc (bored to 88cc) dressed like Elvis in city parades.

 

I sold my stunt bike about a year ago (Honda 929) http://www.putfile.com/pic/6328911/?action=zoom and it is KILLING me!! I have a part time job escorting funerals on an 05 Honda st1300 police bike

http://videos.streetfire.net/video/05-Honda-st1300p_165000.htm but its just not the same as an F-ing crotch rocket. I want to buy this http://dallas.craigslist.org/dal/mcy/808510842.html

but the wife has said "you buy that, you can move out"

 

now she has been through all my stunting, my injuries http://www.putfile.com/pic/3098468/?action=zoom

http://www.putfile.com/pic/3098456/?action=zoom

and I understand that enough is enough. But come on, its a frickin Repsol Honda!!!!! ARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!

 

I'm just ranting.

[JSM]

Just remember, it's cheaper to keep her! LOL!

[v8dats]

Just remember, it's cheaper to keep her! LOL!

 

i like that hahaha

[dr_hunt]

Do what you want, it's your life and you will live with the consequences of whatever you do. For myself and myself only I live each day as it is the last. No regrets, no worries and when I die I will have done all I want to do.

[cygnusx1]

Do this. My friend bought a bike but kept it at my house....I bought a bike and kept it at his house. "No, honey that's not my bike, I'm just storing it for Bill." The wives knew none the better.

 

Just a joke....but it might work!

[skib]

my dad picked up a harley sportster and didn't tell my mom. safe to say she was PISSED

 

 

 

tape a Z emblem to it and tell her you got a 260

[mikeatrpi]

"its better to beg forgiveness than ask permission"

 

(disclaimer - I'm not married)

[jeffer949]

Phil.. Look at it this way. And maybe you can convince her of it. Most stunt bikes are ratted with broken plastics and a wheelie bar cut through the rear tail section and honestly dont look that nice. I think your reasoning for wanting this bike isnt to do crazy stunts on it considering the rarity of the model. Im not saying you wont do stunts but its like you wouldnt do stuff in your Z that you know there is a REALLY good chance of wrecking it. And on the injuries. I dont see any casts or splints or neck braces. So really whats the big deal? I raced motocross for over 13 years and will get back into it shortly(i miss it to much). And bruises are just a way of life.

 

Now take in mind im not married but one thing i do know is that she married YOU more than likely KNOWING you where a bike/stunter guy. Probably even liked it. Why do Girls always expect us to change just because we get older?

[240hoke]

Buy it,

 

Thats a hell of a deal, they go for 7500 or more around here.

 

Its my dream bike

[JSM]

First, HAPPY ANNIVERSERY!

 

I think most of us have an addiction of some sort. Some kind of void we need to fill. Whether speed, handling, or not having the car we wanted as teenagers.

 

The hardest thing to me about relationships is understanding your partners needs and where they are at in life. Let's face it, I'm going on 16 years of marriage and would have given up EVERYTHING to be with my wife and just about did because she was more important. Now 16 years have gone by and I want what I had before I was married!

 

Nothing really wrong with it, I don't want a divorce or want to sleep around, I just have hobbie(s) that help fill that void, whatever it may be.

 

For my relationship I find it easiest to sit down and tell her what, why and how I want to attain buying whatever, and I'm honest. For the most part, it works out very well.

 

An old friend gave me some advice, if you both don't agree on the topic, don't do it, but remember, if she really wants something and you don't agree, she has to follow the same rule.

 

Funny, one of the best compliments my wife ever gave to me was how much money we saved by me working on our own cars. Only relates here if it is about money. Use it as an angle if it helps.

 

Is the bottom line money or safety, both? Likely, with a daughter, she is thinking of your safety and protecting her daughters father and the household provider. Nothing wrong with this, but it is where she is at in Life and it is likely the most important need on her list. (Yep, It's weird!)

 

She's probably thinking, what if he was killed, I'd have to date, get a better job, whatever.

 

Now, no offense, I've seen this many times, she could just be a complete control freek. Then you're screwed!

[big-phil]

Do what you want, it's your life and you will live with the consequences of whatever you do. For myself and myself only I live each day as it is the last. No regrets, no worries and when I die I will have done all I want to do.

I like the sound of that.

[big-phil]

Buy it,

 

Thats a hell of a deal, they go for 7500 or more around here.

 

Its my dream bike

My dream bike too. I wont stunt it, maybe a 2 mile highway wheelie here and there (I used to be able to do 10!) Its not a TRUE repsol its an 04 with Repsol plactic and wheels. But still looks sweet.

 

Thanks guys

[proxlamus©]

your wife loves you..

 

she doesn't want to see you hurt or in pain.

 

 

just like you wouldn't want your daughter doing anything to hurt herself.. your wife doesn't want anything bad to happen to you.

 

Being in a family requires sacrifices and responsible decisions.

[MoNkEyT88]

Well, if you're not very happily married, you should work on that.

 

A motorcycle won't change anything with your wife for the better.

 

Fix your relationship, for the chillen.

 

On a side note, that is a good deal for that 1000RR..

 

edit; wait, it has 30,000mi.. stay away.

[big-phil]

my 05 st1300 had 13500 miles in april 08 when I bought it. It now has 21500 miles aug 26 08. I put 22000 miles on my kz1000 police bike in one year (talk about saddle sore)To me the miles don't really bother me, but it is high for a sport bike.

[big-phil]

oh yeah the wife part, um....yeah make the wife happy.

[CerebralSponge]

Do what you want, it's your life and you will live with the consequences of whatever you do. For myself and myself only I live each day as it is the last. No regrets, no worries and when I die I will have done all I want to do.

 

I like the poetic view of how one's life would play out by living your life day by day as if it's your last. But I think that's a load of doodies. Sorry. I just hear this all the time and wonder if people have thought about what the really means.

If you did that, you would not have a job, because who would work on their last day? There would be no such thing as saving money. Or working on your Z for all those wonderfully horrible frustrating hours. And then there are relationships. If you can build a serious relationship in 1 day, holler. For the rest of us who have some structure to life, living life so that you don't regret what really matters is about the best we can do.

And that's my rant.

 

P.s. If you choose the bike, you better post a sweet video of a ten mile wheelie!

[gb20]

Though I haven't been married for nearly as long (only 6yrs), I know what you mean about being unhappily married. It got to the point that my wife moved out, we had the custody of our son (4yrs old) all figured out and only had to send in the papers to be final. I thought she was basically evil and out to piss me off just for the fun of it. After we had some time apart, and I had some time to meditate about our relationship, I realized that a lot of the problem was me. I could see what I did, or better yet, didn't do to let it get to that point. I realized I still loved her and knew what we could do to make it work. We are SO much happier and get along so much better now. You can't change her, but you can sure change the way you act and react with her.

 

Now I got lucky and my wife agrees that if I can pay cash for a bran new Ducati, I can get it. I guess I better learn how to ride huh!

 

Good luck bro.

[ZDrifter]

I just need to get one thing right big phil. You say your not a very happily married man...Now does that mean you and your wife are having issues or does it mean that you are not happy because you cant do the things you use to do because of being in a family situation?

 

Now if you and your wife are having issues thats one thing.. and I'm very sorry to hear that if thats the situation. Also none of us need to be in that part of your life unless you bring us into that by your choice. Now that thats aside if your very in love with your wife and cant be without her in your life then good for you because I have been having no luck with that what so ever.

 

If you are just wanting something that will make you happy and enjoy life itself more but the wife says no then I have heard about this situation everyday from the guys I work with haha. In my opinion she has a point. Its dangerous, you have a young daughter and your wife obviously loves you to care enough about your well being. BUT and this is a big but, we are guys. We love almost anything that involves us with danger and cool guy stuff. I dont believe anyone should control you but when somebody vows to be your partner they vow to care for you through anything. Your wife wants you to be safe, wants to be with you and have you there for your daughter growing up.

 

Now what I think you should do if you really want this bike is this- Sit down with her or where ever your alone with her, talk to her seriously about it. Start off by saying.... Dont say no until you hear everything that I have to say. Both of you are going to have to sacrifice to come to a conclusion. You will have to sacrifice stunt riding, no matter how hard it is, its too dangerous to do in this time of your life having children. Explain to her its for the joy of riding. You miss it and you want it back. She will have to sacrifice with trusting you in that you wont do anything stupid and you will think about your family before doing a wheelie at 80mph. Seriously, have fun with it but abusing your power is really not worth dying over it.

[JSM]

BIG_PHIL, You should do a youtube video of how you Really feel so we can all comment! Actually, get a buddy to tape the whole fight! JK

 

Looking back at the original post, you were just ranting. Most of us married folks have been in the same or similar postion and I can at least say I understand and feel your frustration.