I am not totally sure about what I am going to say because I have reached the bottom of my TALL gin and tonic. Anyhow, the two signal lines are looking for a pressure differential to pop open the BOV. At WOT, the two lines see the same pressure and the spring is the only force that can keep the valve shut. Under boost, at WOT both lines SHOULD see the same pressure so they cancel out. As the throttle plate closes, you begin to develop a pressure difference between the two lines. The front line still sees boost but the back line starts to see less boost and maybe vaccum. When the difference in pressure between the two lines produces a greater force than the spring, the BOV vents. Under very high boosts, and the resulting high flows, you may be getting a pressure drop across your WOT. In other words, the TB could be a restriction even at WOT. Are you running 60mm or larger? As I see it. If boost is getting to both hoses evenly, and that pressure is getting delivered to BOTH sides of the BOV plate, then it should NOT blow off at any pressure. Explained: the boost on the inside of the BOV is pushing it open and the boost from the two lines is pushing it closed with the same force. They cancel and the spring holds the valve shut.
You could mess with restrictors in the signal lines to modify the rate of signal. That would delay action of the BOV but it's all experimental and probably counterproductive in your case. You could also try locating different places on the manifold to pick up the signal.
Good night I'm going to sleep well tonight.