Hey guys, thanks for the replies, keep them coming.
I will say this first, all of this has nothing to do with self indulgence!
Let's be honest, in most couples, the dad wants a boy, the mom wants a girl.
If my wife was able to have any more kids, then we would. However, after the problems we had with the last pregnancy, her age, etc. we sadly can not.
I am only 37 by the way.
Now I don't totally agree with woldson's first post, but I do see his point.
We decided to look into this to save a child, not to give us the girl we didn't have.
However, if it is possible to choose, then why not?
It is really sad that alot of people who do not understand the safe haven laws, then just abandon their babies, because of simple ignorance.
As for fostering, it works great for some people. My "step-grandma" did the fostering thing for awhile when she was younger. Then everytime she got the kids to where they needed to be, they would be taken away. She finally adopted a son and a daughter, who grew to happy and successful.
We don't want to become attached to a kid and then have it taken away. But more importantly, we don't want a kid to get attached to us and have to move on, the kid, even an infant has been through enough already.
Our two sons are ages 3.5 and almost 8. No, they don't fully understand what adoption means. They do seem to be very interested in the idea though.
We are going to research this very well before we go for it.
We are going to a "party" of sorts next month hosted by the adoption exchange just to chat with others that have adopted.
It was posted that people who adopt are saints, that may have truth to it, but for us it is about saving one of life's most precious gifts, a child.
Have any of you seen the news about the little boy who was abandoned at a Wal-Mart? It is these kind of events that just kill us. There is a local organization/group of people whose purpose is to make people aware of the safe haven laws. They need volunteers, I am going to do it.
If any of you are interested in the local child abandoment cases, I can send you some links to read.
Guys, sorry for the long post, thanks for reading.
Jason