This is a very confusing post...first you say you are using an SDS, then stock electronics with a flapper??? I believe the two units are mutually exclusive. If you were running too lean at 20 psi, it seems to me you need to richen it up at that map setting, and reducing the boost will not fix your rich condition. In order to make that kind of power on a stock motor at 17 psi I think you are still running dangerously lean. As for tearing up your halfshafts, there are many folks who can run with more power and not break them - what are you running in the 60'?
You will certainly find buyers for your drivetrain parts here, and plenty of support for a 4 link setup, but it sounds like a lot of work and expense that may not be necessary...have you considered replacing the halfshafts with the CV jointed halfshafts? You can retain your rear end and suspension - Scottie GNZ ran 11s with a CV jointed R200 independent rear end.