Are you married? Do you have kids?
Yes and yes, three. Married 6plus years, 36 yrs old.
You are who you want to be. There is very little that is "you".
Marriage is tough, ever notice how women don't even get along with themselves?
The merit of a man is constituted in how he rises to meet difficulty in the responsibility that he has undertaken.
Big Phil has got a problem, but it is not a sports bike. It appears he is at a crossroad in his life, all decisions up to this are his and his alone.
The decision he makes now is his and his alone, good or bad. You want identity,,,,,,Don't Blame Others for Crap, and own it yourself.
I dought that he can look in to his loving daughters eyes and his wifes and than turn around and look in the mirror, without feeling shame.
Remember his wife is lets him have all kinds of toys and do all kinda odd ball stuff. She has a problem with him and where he might be headed in life, the bike is just sparking point, masking a much bigger problem.
All men who have "owned it" will probably be able to attest to this.
Remember, "things change" is just a bunch of decisions. You decide for good, your life will get better.
On a side note, Loose of a child would probably destroy me. Hopefully it won't because I have two other children that need me. If I decide that that loose will own me, than it will probably damage or destroy them as well.
I pray that decision will never come to my home.