Well guys thnaks for all your great support and sharing your own stories and pain, I don't feel like such a huge loser (just a small one)....well guess what?
I took the oil pan off and the dowel was not there, so it evidently stuck in the front cover!
I tried compressed air, I tired flushing with oil, I tired walking with a magnet on the oil pan towards the drain hole - nada, nischt, zero, zip, zilch!
Sooooo......I am going to remove the entire engine by Friday out of the car and I have decided to rebuild the entire engine with Forged Internals and build it to take 400+whp all due to a falling dowel!
Call it Karma...my brother tells me I was flirting with time before my stock bottom end would have let go (had almost 150,000 miles on it).
Pretty crazy...maybe happened for a reason...who knows. I'm comitted now. Still can't believe it.
Another 2months added to my project.
Yasin