I’m sure you all know this, but you must recognize that men and women see things totally differently. I can rarely convince my wife of my views, but she deals with it and vice versa. Were just different people.
I think the key is realizing you can’t change anyone, male or female. If you want to be together you must accept them for who they are or move on.
To me, I think there is more positives about the girl you mentioned then negatives. It’s good to have hobbies together, but it is also great to have your own.
I still laugh at what my neighbor said to me before he moved away, “…I’d be gay if it wasn’t for the sex.”