This is why I was saying if you don't know how it works, let someone who does fix it. Your BIL is right, but you would need to measure it to find out what spacer is necessary, and if you buy a similar kit for a Porsche or some other car, they've already measured it and come up with a generic recommendation based on that.
I don't know how big your spacers are, but I moved the LCA pivots up about 7/16" to minimize my bumpsteer, so if yours are about that tall then you're probably in the ballpark. Changing the size of the spacer to make it fit is not the way to deal with this. Wheel spacers are a better solution.