turbo's can push up to whatever boost pressure the engine can handle usually, it's rare to max a turbo's maximum pressure before blowing something in the engine. remember a turbocharged engine can act like a compounding air compressor. the more exhaust that comes out of the engine, the faster the turbo spins, the more air goes into the engine, rinse and repeat. Turbo's can only flow so much air in terms of cfm, the same goes for maximum pressure until something fails in the turbo. However by this point the engine has more than likely ran out of fuel to compensate for the extra airflow and/or combustion chamber pressure has become higher than the mechanical parts can handle. then, pop goes the weasel.
Are you sure you have the controller hooked up right? Why is it set to 14.4 if people recommend 12?
The stock wastegate is controlled by a preset spring pressure, not the ecu, unless I'm greatly mistaken. Every system on a mass production car I've personally experienced don't use the ecu to aid in regulating boost pressure. Assuming you're using the s130 gear, I imagine it couldn't be any more 'advanced' than the z31 stuff.
Now then, it's far past my bedtime and I probably spewed a wad of text nobody can understand due to its incoherant mass of random words, lol.